Updated: Jun 14
The most frequently asked question by families looking into the stepparent adoption process is “How much does a stepparent adoption cost?”
The answer varies, but before we get to that, let’s talk about how much not doing a stepparent adoption is costing you.
1- Emotional cost to the mother
As the biological mother, you are probably worried about what will happen to your child if something happened to you, whether it be sickness or death.
You probably worry about whether your child will end up with the absent father that he doesn’t know. And you’re probably worried about the effect this will have on your husband if your child was ripped away from him after you’re gone.
2- Emotional cost to the child
Whether you know it or not, your child is probably worried about the future as well, especially if he knows that your husband is not his biological father.
3- Emotional and financial cost to your husband
Your husband is your child’s dad as he has been raising him and financially providing for him. He has been doing all the hard work of parenting and literally spending thousands of dollars on daycare, school tuition and fees, school activities, and the list goes on.
Your husband is also the only dad that your child knows. He’s been there through all the milestones and treats your child like his own. He is invested in your child as a parent.
SO WHY NOT MAKE IT LEGAL?
Benefit #1- The cost for the stepparent adoption will happen one time, but the stepparent adoption will positively affect the rest of your family’s life and will bring you emotional stability, security, peace of mind, and overall happiness.
Benefit #2- You can finally get a passport for your child if you don’t have one already! This seems to be at the top of the list for a lot of families.
Benefit #3 – Your child and your husband will never have to worry about what will happen to their relationship when you’re gone. Your child will stay with the only father he knows and your husband will continue to be the father he already is.
In view of all the benefits of a stepparent adoption, the one-time cost is more than worth it and you should strongly consider completing the stepparent adoption.